Dear reader friend,

Initially, I planned to share a list of traits to help you identify negative people so you could avoid them. But as I reflected deeper, I realized that this perspective only reinforces a divisive mindset.

The truth is, there are not simply two types of people: those who are negative, critical, and unsupportive, and those who are encouraging, supportive, and non-judgmental. Instead, each of us is capable of being either, depending on our mood, life circumstances, and personal growth.

This shift in understanding led me to see the real issue: it’s not about labeling or avoiding “negative people”—it’s about recognizing that negativity can exist in all of us.

The real key lies in choosing, moment by moment, to be the positive, supportive, and compassionate person you aspire to attract. By focusing on your own mindset and energy, you can not only uplift yourself but also influence those around you.

In my practice, I encourage my clients to remain aware of abusive or hurtful people. While negativity is a common human experience, abusive behaviors are a separate issue and may require firm boundaries or even casting such individuals out of your life to protect your well-being. This is a different scenario beyond just being negative.

For example, one of my clients, Anna, struggled with a family member whose behavior was both emotionally draining and abusive. Despite Anna's desire to maintain a connection, the constant criticism and lack of respect created a toxic dynamic. Through our work together, Anna learned to set firm boundaries and recognized that prioritizing her well-being was not selfish but essential. By releasing the emotional weight of that relationship, Anna found space to cultivate healthier and more supportive connections.

Just like the myth that cats and dogs are natural enemies, the belief that we can’t coexist with negative people is often false.

With patience, clear boundaries, and understanding, even opposites can find harmony—just as a cat and dog raised together can become the best of friends.

Here are a few ways to cultivate a high, positive mindset and embody the encouraging, non-judgmental, and supportive energy you seek:

1. Practice Mindful Awareness

Negative reactions often stem from unconscious patterns or unhealed wounds. By practicing mindfulness, you can pause, observe your thoughts, and choose how to respond rather than react. This awareness helps you recognize when negativity arises within yourself and allows you to shift toward a more compassionate perspective.

2. Embrace Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful antidote to negativity. Take a few moments each day to reflect on what you’re grateful for. This simple practice rewires your brain to focus on abundance rather than lack, creating a positive ripple effect in your interactions with others.

3. Set Energetic Boundaries

Protecting your energy doesn’t mean avoiding people entirely but rather recognizing when you need to recharge. Surround yourself with uplifting environments and people when possible, and practice self-care to maintain your own energetic balance.

4. Choose Compassion Over Judgment

When you encounter negativity in others, resist the urge to judge or label them. Instead, try to understand what might be triggering their behavior. Compassion transforms relationships and helps you maintain your own positive energy.

5. Commit to Personal Growth

Negative patterns can often reflect our own unresolved challenges. By committing to healing and personal development, you’ll naturally become a more positive influence in the lives of those around you. Tools like journaling, meditation, and therapy can be invaluable in this process.

6. Be the Energy You Want to Attract

Like attracts like. When you focus on cultivating joy, kindness, and authenticity within yourself, you’ll naturally draw people who resonate with that energy. Your inner work becomes a magnet for supportive, high-vibration connections.

7. Forgive Yourself and Others

Holding onto grudges or self-blame can keep you stuck in negativity. Practice forgiveness—both for yourself and for those who may have hurt you. This act of release opens the door to emotional freedom and deeper compassion.

8. Celebrate Small Wins

Positivity grows when you acknowledge and celebrate progress, no matter how small. Encourage yourself as you would a dear friend, and this self-supportive energy will radiate outward.

 Final Thoughts

The belief that negative people must be avoided oversimplifies the complexities of human nature. We are all on a journey, navigating the highs and lows of life. By committing to your own growth and choosing to embody positivity, you not only transform yourself but also create a ripple effect that inspires and uplifts those around you.

The power lies in your daily choices to be the light you wish to see in the world.

Your Ghostbuster Friend, 

Fabienne 

PS: Please share your thoughts and questions with me—they might help someone else facing similar challenges.