Life is about
overcoming the frustrations. They will never disappear. Once one aspect of our life gets
better, another one seems to get worse; everyday a new challenge arises. How we handle
negativity is what make the difference between true success and failure.
Often, we judge
ourselves as having failed simply because we compare ourselves to an outside standard (such as
family values or traditions) that may not be in harmony with our core belief
For example, a
woman who is not married or does not have children may feel that she failed to please her
parent’s expectations of becoming grandparents in their later years. A man who does not provide
enough money for his family may feel guilty even though he could be providing other
talents to the world, such as sharing his artistic gifts or being a stay-at-home father. Our
feelings of failure can also be related to fitness in a society that is very cruel toward those
who do not fit the current standards of what is considered beautiful or healthy. If not skinny,
a girl and /or women does not feel beautiful; likewise a boy or man if not buff and fit will
not feel as attractive.
It is essential to
examine the real value of all those standards that constantly affect our daily lives (like
little voices in your head) and decide what is important to you and why?
a personal quest that takes honesty and courage because denial and procrastination usually
arise when the question of self examination come to place.
family tradition or values requires an open mind and guts when confrontation arises. This is
maybe part of the issue with teenagers who need to affirm themselves as different from the
tribe and the family cocoon. As parents it is important to our children' s growth let go of
some control (as long as the safety of our young people is not jeopardized, of
Another aspect of
failure can be that we don’t always see the purpose of our struggle. Many successful people say
that the difference between success and failure is not knowledge or talent but persistence,
tenacity and determination.
You will continue
to fail until suddenly you don' t. Once you have a strong desire, a passion for a goal: Never
This is why it is
so important to be clear about your life purpose and the object of your strong
Once you know
this, faith in your destiny and trust in the Divine support guidance will create synchronicity
and endless opportunities to manifest what you are placed on earth to
I learned to
detach myself from the outcome of my desire and when capable of such peace, strength is given
to my soul.
detachment is a personal decision that becomes easier with practice and this is why I encourage
my clients to use my Self-Hypnosis CD. They contain keys to retrain the subconscious
mind beyond words, from the intent that created them.
This is the same
concept that is behind why prayers are so powerful. Many tests have proven that people that are
prayed for heal faster and better than people that are ignored.
Of course I still
get irritated and want to resist my circumstances sometimes, but as soon as the truth of the
situation reaches my awareness, it becomes clear again that I do have choice. Our choice is
always: resist and suffer or let go and experience peace. When peace is present in the castle
of my soul, loving thoughts and actions emerge, and like a miracle, the way is cleared and joy
forge your ability to master detachment. There is not such a thing too big or too small to
tackle. Success depends solely on your determination to keep going without judgment of failure.
A spiritual teacher told me years ago that it is none of our business to judge the value or
result of our healing sessions. The same applies to the results of any of our action as long as
we have carried them out with loving and detached intent.
following Michael Jordan
illustrate what failure really is.If you feel that you have blocks in
regards to your free will and ability to let go, our next
seminar or individual spiritual counseling/healing session or
may offer you the next step to reach what we call Zone or Flow of
To all your failures, so you can